December 2, 2010

Arrrgghhh

I asked my son's friend to enclose my porch using insulated walls last week. He showed up yesterday and since my son has a bad back, I went along with him to Home Depot to get supplies.
  • 33 2x4s of two different lengths
  • 8 sheets of R1-11 siding panels
  • Various pieces of hardware to complete the task
I was planning on continuing the priming/painting work,but old age crept in.
I felt as if I was getting the flu last night. I was sore and achy and cold.
The outside temperature has dropped and it rained most of yesterday, so I imagine the humidity had something to do with it. Some of the kids on my bus are sick, so I thought I was catching something.
Anyway, I took a tylenol caplet and broke it apart and took it with a sip.
About an hour later, I started to warm up and feel better. So, it's not a bug, it's just old age. I think I'd rather have the bug.At least with the bug, I would get over it. Can't do that with old age.
This morning, I went back to Home Depot to pick up more supplies. I have a sore shoulder now, but have more tylenol in the cabinet should I need it.
I didn't get any painting done last night but I did manage to set things up for when I do get started. I slept well.
I can't imagine what will happen when I finally get back to a full time job. My energy level is fine, but my endurance is terrible. I fizzle easily.
Life is still good. I am not complaining, rather, I am just writing down my thoughts in case anyone is interested.



November 30, 2010

So many friends.....

When we moved into this house in 1992, we had been living in flat white walled apartments. The house we bought in West York had a light blue and rose theme per the real estate agent's wishes. He thought that that would be a good color combination and he was right. It helped us sell the house when it was time.
Donna had bright shiny blue eyes. That was what drew me to her in the first place 34 years ago. When I bought things for the house, it was those eyes that I wanted to highlight.
It didn't matter what went on, good or bad, in our life, I was in love with those eyes, and the woman attached to them.
So, when we moved into the house she grew up in, I wanted to highlight her eyes. I wanted bright colors because of the bland colors of the places we had lived before.
I painted the living room a deep beautiful blue.
I painted the hallway the same color. I added deep blue carpet for both areas. Nice, thick carpet. I didn't think about the future or re-sale appeal.
Our bedroom was painted lipstick red with a white ceiling and white carpet. It made Donna glow, and I loved it.
My son wanted institution green for his room, so I brightened it up a bit and gave it to him. My daughter liked the color in her room, which was a very pale green with a mural on the wall from her grandparents. I can understand her wanting to retain that style as a memory of them.
When she moved out, I painted the room a brighter green, but left the mural alone. It was tattered and falling off the wall, but it was still there. Donna wanted that room as her sewing room, so I painted it bright for her. She didn't like it. She never got to change it. She never got to use the room.
For some reason, I never got to paint the bathroom or kitchen. They look terrible and worn out. They are some color that I can't even describe. Her parents were traditional, with bland colors. The kitchen has stains from all the years of cooking. The floor is in the same shape as are the ceilings of both rooms.
So over the years, I have painted the living room and the bedrooms. I also painted the basement this past year with a combination of white paint and waterproof white paint. This brightened up the basement considerably. There is just a bit of sunlight that comes in there during the day, and that helps a lot.
I painted the garage too. My Father in Law never got around to that. I tried to put an angled red white and blue pattern on the one wall, but it looks terrible. I'm not an artist and that proved that no matter how sincere I was about trying, I'll never be an artist. At least I can sing and play guitar!
I am working on the porch too. It had aluminum screened walls that wore out over the years. I am having the walls replaced with permanent ones to stop the breeze and add another room. I have to put some kind of floor on the concrete, and maybe paint the brick walls. Another project that will add value to the house when and if I sell it.
When I originally painted the house, just before we moved in, I was working and not too fat. I did a lot of the work myself, but Donna helped. I think the kids even chipped in a bit too. I had the carpet put in by a professional.
Much of the improvements over the years have been done by pros, but I have done a lot myself too. The problems came when I got too fat to do the work.
Donna never helped with the lawn mowing, but instead, she did the gardens. She never finished them, but had intentions of doing so. I always used a push mower, sometimes self propelled. I used a plain push mower when I had the WLS as a form of exercise. You can read about that in the archives.
I am in the process, of being obsessed. I want to finish everything that was started here. I don't have anyone living here with me, so I should be able to work until I drop, walk away, then come back and finish something without having to worry about anything being disturbed.
I can do that, but so far haven't been able to. I spend a lot of my time wasted as far as actually working. Oh I have gotten a lot of thing finished, but there is so much more to do. If I were to work 8 hours a day painting now, I would be finished in a week or two. My ADD doesn't seem to want to allow me to do that. I am frustrated, but have learned patience and don't let it bother me too much. I have made so much progress in my whole life, not just fixing the house.
Painting is good exercise. It is low impact and steady. I need to concentrate and not allow my muscles to relax. It is not aerobic, although the fumes in here make me wonder if I'm being affected.
I am at a standstill as far as my music is concerned while I am fixing the house. My fingers are sore, but it's my mind that isn't allowing me to play. Something is still blocking me from just doing it.
I still have a list a mile long of things that I have to do. They pile up until I just take the time and do them. I have two letters to send out tomorrow with death certificates. I have dishes. I have to fold the summer clothes and put them into the Cedar chest.
I have to sort all the papers that Donna's death caused. Bills, taxes, insurance, medical.
I want to get a budget started so I know how much money I need to make to maintain this lifestyle and still be able to go on vacation.
It's funny, but I cleaned off my desk two weeks ago, and you wouldn't know it to look at it today.
I spend too much time on Face book and here!

November 29, 2010

Ramblings of a mad man

The holiday is over for now, and it causes quite a drop in emotion. It does that every year, but this year, it is a little more intense.
Many people reported on
Facebook that they couldn't sleep last night and I was one of them. I got up around 2am and couldn't go back to sleep.
It's all part of the holiday aftermath.
I have tried to stay away from the things that make me not be able to sleep. I follow patterns if I can. I go to bed around the same time every night during the holiday, rather than stay up later.
This year, I took long walks before bed. Unfortunately, I stayed up later than I should. I am alone, and lonely, and that makes it tough to go to bed early.
So, I watched movies, and TV, and did other things in the evening.
Now, I am tired. I have things to do and I'm tired.
Forcing myself to enjoy something isn't near as much fun as actually enjoying something. (madman)
I think I'll take a nap and try to get something done later today.
I accomplished so much this holiday, yet the let down of the holiday itself shadows that work.
  • I pretty much kept to my diet. I had two tubs of leftovers that I brought home, and still have one of them. They are about a quart in size.
  • I walked a lot, but not enough. The wind always discourages me from walking and it was windy a few days. I waited until late evening to walk one day because of the wind.
  • I did get my priming/paint project started, but got this cheap primer that doesn't seem to want to cover the walls, so I either have to take it back, or use it for several coats and hope it stays where I put it. I would hate to take it back to Wal*Mart and stand in line for an hour. Next time, I'll buy the good stuff.
  • I did a lot of research on recording equipment and have several choices, or none. One of them requires me to finally break down and buy a Mac. The cheapest choice would be to forget about recording multiple voices and just do me playing guitar and singing. I could also quit playing altogether and save a lot of time and money. Nah...
  • The movie I saw helped me a lot. Crazy Heart is about a guy my age who has finally figured out how to survive the rest of his life (unlike me) by getting and staying sober. I have been sober since 1980, so I've already got that licked. The problem with a movie is that it's just that. Life is different. I did see several part of The Wizard of Oz in HD. It was brilliant as always, but in HD, it was amazing! I am so glad I bought the TV.
  • I bought a Lane Cedar hope chest. This may sound like something strange, but I've wanted to buy a piece of furniture that no one else owned, and this was it. I cleaned the 10 drawer monster dresser out, moved it to the back bedroom, and cleaned the area where it was before placing the much smaller chest in it's place. This opens up room in my bedroom and makes it look larger. I will store my summer clothing there instead of the closet. This will open up room in the closet so I don't end up cluttering it up. My wife's cedar chest is worn from years of abuse, so I will probably sand it down and refinish it over the winter before trying to sell it, or give it to one of the kids. I have one other storage chest that is not cedar that I will sell. I found out that if you have storage space, you have the tendency to want to fill it with something. I will have lots of space in the near future, but I won't fill it with anything other than the bare basics. I will be selling the huge dresser, so if you're in the market....
  • I will start work on the porch soon. I got an estimate to put up two walls in order to enclose it. Right now, it's a breezeway in the worst sense. The wind howls through there pulling out any warm air it can from the two bedrooms. Even though they have double pane windows, the bedrooms still get cold. If I enclose the porch, It will cut that wind, and I will have a place that I can use as a quiet place. The walls will be insulated, and I may heat it later if I decide it's needed. I can use a space heater for now if I choose.
I'm trying to find myself, and I am surprised and disappointed every day, every waking moment, and even sometimes when I'm sleeping.

Without the weight loss surgery, I wouldn't have been able to get even this far. I couldn't have lost the weight on my own. A disaster would have been in the works had I not found it.

Sometimes, I feel like the guy in the story "Flowers for Algernon" . I had the miracle happen, and now I feel as if it's slipping away. That's the mad man inside of me. I know I don't have to let that happen.

So, as I finish the second useless coat of primer, I have other more important things to do.
Onward and upward!